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Domestic Violence

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The Cycle of Violence From The Battered Woman by Lenore Walker, 1979.
Please note the terms "batterer" and "victim" are not used to pathologize, criticize or blame individuals.  Please note, marital counseling is NOT helpful (and sometimes not safe) for domestic violence relationships. 


Phase One: Tension Building

- Batterer becomes more agitated and angry.
- Victim is compliant; tries to placate Batterer.
- Victim minimizes problems and denies anger.
- Batterer takes more control.
- Victim withdraws to avoid setting Batterer off.
- Tension becomes unbearable.  
 
Phase Two: Acute Battering

- Severe battering or verbal abuse takes place.
- Batterer unpredictable; claims loss of control.
- Victim is helpless and feels trapped.
- Batterer is highly abusive.
- Victim is traumatized.
- This phase is shorter than Phase One.

Phase Three: The Honeymoon
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- Batterer is apologetic, remorseful, loving and kind.
- Batterer makes promises (to get help, quit drinking, etc.).
- Victim wants to believe Batterer and feels responsible.
- Victim is least likely to flee in this phase.

Cycle Repeats with Increased Intensity

Life On Their Terms
Is My Partner Abusive?
​The Cycle of Violence
Dangers of Staying
Healing From an Abusive Relationship

​Online Support, Information and Resources
 
The 12 Step Cyber Café offers excellent online help in recovering from unhealthy relationships.
http://www.12steps.com/
 
National Domestic Violence Hotline site offers a wealth of information on domestic violence and getting help.
http://www.ndvh.org/


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FCCS is directed by Melinda Haynes, MA, California LMFT license number 102308.  Oklahoma LMFT license number 1153. North Carolina LMFT license number 2143.

​The National Supervised Visitation online training program is a subsidiary of FCCS and can be found at 
https://www.SupervisedVisitationTraining.com.  Professional consulting for mental and behavioral health professionals is available at www.MelindaHaynes.com.  Other connected but unrelated sites are Kate & Mel, Can We Talk? and The Motley Ms. 


  • Home
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    • Covid-19 >
      • Beat Lockdown Anxiety with These Mindfulness Tips
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      • California Consumer Privacy Act (CCPA)
    • Can Therapy Help Me?
    • Can Therapy Help My Child?
    • Help! My Kids Have Been Taken by CPS >
      • California CSD
    • Consumer Privacy HIPAA
  • About
    • Brochures
    • Folletos en espanol
    • History
    • What We Do
    • Meet Us | Our Team >
      • Jayme Schlager - Office Assistant
      • Bryony Hottendorf - Program Manager, Supervised Visitation
      • April Nicole- Billing Manager
      • Roxanna Taylor- Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Abigail Mebrahtu Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Ashlyn Crouch Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Tiffany Runge, AMFT 112914
      • Emily Medina, AMFT 107900
      • Deb Auran, Therapist Trainee
      • Jasmine Madera, MS, APCC 8239
      • Jasmine Madera, MS, APCC 8239 Clinico profesional
      • Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT. President and CEO
    • As Seen On
    • Trauma-Informed
    • Attachment Trauma Recovery >
      • Origins of Attachment Trauma
      • Signs of Attachment Trauma in Adults and Children
      • Therapy for Attachment Trauma
    • Mission Vision Philosophy
    • Values
  • Services
    • Therapy or Counseling >
      • Online Therapy >
        • Online Therapy- Questions and Answers
      • Family Therapy
      • Child Therapy
      • Teen Therapy
      • HSP
      • Reunification Therapy
      • Foster /Kinship
      • Post-Adoption
      • Family Maintenance
      • EPIC Family
    • Types of Therapy >
      • Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT)
      • Play Therapy
      • Play Therapy for Adults
      • Multi-Sensory Integration
      • Parent-Child Therpay
      • Experiential Therapy
      • REBT
      • EMDR
      • School Based Family Counseling >
        • For Schools and Districts- PBIS Partners
      • E-Motion >
        • Movement- Stored Trauma Therapy
      • Mindfulness
    • Supervised Visitation >
      • Online Visits
      • Getting Started
      • California Supervised Visitation >
        • Supervised Visitation in Chico, California
      • Facilitated Visitation
      • Monitored Exchange
    • Family Preservation
    • Groups >
      • Camp Fire Support Group
      • Confident Kids
      • Productive Parenting
    • Kids Behavior Coaching
    • Daycare / School- Based Services
    • Associate Clinical Supervision
    • Workshops
    • Online Learning Center >
      • Become a Supervised Visitation Monitor
    • PBIS Partners >
      • Why Do We Have Empty Chairs?
      • Signs A Student May Benefit
      • Why Should My School Collaborate with FCCS?
      • School-Based Services May Include
  • Insurance / Fees
    • Important Note About Insurance
  • Helpful Links
    • Community Services >
      • 2020 California Fire Resources
      • Community Services- Butte County California
      • Free Mental Health Free Therapy
    • Mental Health Apps
    • Recommended Reading
    • Places to Go- Family Fun >
      • Places to Go in California >
        • Places to Go in Butte County California
        • Places to Go in Shasta County California
        • Places to Go in Fairfield, California
        • Places to Go Suisun City, California
      • Places to Go in North Carolina
      • Places to Go in Oklahoma >
        • Places to Go in Tulsa, Oklahoma
        • Places to Go in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
    • Weight Management >
      • Why We Develop Bad Habits
      • Diets Don't Work
      • Mapping Out Success
      • Journaling
      • Making New Habits
      • Creating Staying Power
    • Can We Talk?
    • Life On Their Terms >
      • Is My Partner Abusive?
      • The Cycle of Violence
      • Dangers of Staying
      • Healing From an Abusive Relationship
    • What is a Treatment Plan?
    • Of Caterpillars and Courage
    • Helping Kids Feel Safe in a Scary World
    • LifeStyle Wellbeing- Creating a New You
  • Contact
    • Tour the Chico Office
  • Career Center
    • What We Offer
    • Now Hiring LMFT LPCC LCSW Supervisor- CHICO, CA
    • Now Hiring Client Services Manager | Front Desk
    • Now Hiring Family Monitor
    • Taking Applications for Therapist Associate >
      • We Help You Build Your Private Practice