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This article is directed toward female victims.  However, both men and women can be victims of domestic violence. 

​The Path to Integrated Healing
 
The damage caused by domestic violence affects a woman’s physical, spiritual, mental and emotional well being.  Therefore, the healing process should address all of these areas, both individually and holistically.  Professional counseling is strongly encouraged.
 
Physical Well Being
 
Your tangible human body needs health, vitality and protection from harm in order to thrive.  This is obtained through a variety of circumstances and lifestyle choices.  The most obvious is remaining free from an abusive relationship.
 
Safety, shelter, food and water are all basic essentials that need to be present in order for you to proceed to higher levels of self-awareness and self-fulfillment.  However, just having your basic needs met is not enough. 
 
In order to rise above the minimum standard for life- just getting by- you must reach for a higher level of physical wellbeing.  This is obtained through physical activity, proper diet and adequate rest.
 
Improving your physical wellbeing will bring you many rewards. You will feel better, look better, have increased confidence, a clear mind, lowered stress, increased stamina and improved mental functioning.  Of course, this is just a sample of the many benefits obtained through physical wellbeing. 
 
Due to the trauma endured, please consider Therapy as part of your healing process.

Spiritual Well Being
 
Spiritual Well being is promoted through study, prayer, inner reflection and times of silence.  Get in touch with your spiritual side.  It is there where you will find inner peace, joy, beauty and strength that you never knew existed.  You may attend church, study in the privacy of your home, listen to worship music or spend time with others.
 
Time spent seeking your Creator is priceless.  You will learn how to love and how to be loved because you will know Love.  You will find the answers to your problems and relief from your pain.  You will learn who you and Whose you are, and you will find your purpose for being.
 
Don’t know how to start?  Find a quiet place where you can be alone.  Ask God to show Himself to you in a way you will understand.  And then, just be still.  Be silent.  Wait.  Listen.  He will meet you there.
 
Mental Well Being
 
It is simply not enough to be away from abuse in order to achieve mental wellbeing.  Take a look at yourself.  Are there addictions you need to overcome?  Bad habits you need to break?  Problems with procrastination, laziness or other life issue? 
 
What do you know about relationships?  Domestic violence?  Money?  Politics? Current affairs?  If you were to take a test on any of these subjects, do you think you would pass?
 
You must stretch your mind! Give it a workout.  Keep your mind active and alert.  Read.  Study.  Learn.
 
Emotional Well Being
 
Are you “in touch” with yourself and your feelings?  Can you identify, acknowledge and accept the multitude of feelings that you experience every day?  Do you feel grounded and steady emotionally or are you prone to irrational mood swings and erratic reactions?
 
The first step in achieving emotional wellbeing is to work through all the junk and get rid of all the baggage. Journaling, counseling and building a good support network are all important aspects of this process.
 
In addition, you may want to take anger management or parenting classes; attend a motivational seminar; read healing/ recovery books; practice positive self-talk and focus on understanding your self-worth.
 
Each person’s growth toward emotional well being is different.  Find what works for you and stick with it.  Remember, growth is a process.  Be patient with yourself and don’t give up!  You have what it takes to face and work through those issues that have been tying you down!
​
​Life On Their Terms
Is My Partner Abusive?
​The Cycle of Violence
Dangers of Staying
Healing From an Abusive Relationship

​Online Support, Information and Resources
 
The 12 Step Cyber Café offers excellent online help in recovering from unhealthy relationships.
http://www.12steps.com/
 
National Domestic Violence Hotline site offers a wealth of information on domestic violence and getting help.
http://www.ndvh.org/

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FCCS is directed by Melinda Haynes, MA, California LMFT 102308.  Oklahoma LMFT 1153. North Carolina LMFT 2143.

​The National Supervised Visitation online training program is a subsidiary of FCCS and can be found at 
https://www.SupervisedVisitationTraining.com.  Professional consulting for mental and behavioral health professionals is available at www.MelindaHaynes.com.  

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      • Bryony Hottendorf - Program Manager, Supervised Visitation
      • Roxanna Taylor- Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Ashlyn Crouch Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Brehanna Schweizer Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Tiffany Runge, AMFT 112914
      • Emily Medina, AMFT 107900
      • Tyree Griffith MS APCC 7863
      • Deb Auran, Therapist Associate
      • Ginger Barros Therapist Associate 107604
      • Erica Washington, MSW, ACSW Associate Clinical Social Worker 95523
      • Gabriela Leyva
      • Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT. Executive Director
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      • LGBTQAI+ Counseling
      • Christian Counseling
      • Foster /Kinship
      • Post-Adoption
      • Family Maintenance
      • EPIC Family
    • Types of Therapy >
      • Online Therapy >
        • Online Therapy- Questions and Answers
      • Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT)
      • Play Therapy
      • Play Therapy for Adults
      • Multi-Sensory Integration
      • Parent-Child Therpay
      • Experiential Therapy
      • REBT
      • EMDR
      • School Based Family Counseling >
        • For Schools and Districts- PBIS Partners
      • E-Motion >
        • Movement- Stored Trauma Therapy
      • Mindfulness
    • Supervised Visitation >
      • Online Visits
      • Getting Started
      • Facilitated Visitation
      • Monitored Exchange
    • Family Preservation
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      • Confident Kids
      • Productive Parenting
    • Kids Behavior Coaching
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    • Associate Clinical Supervision
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    • Can Therapy Help My Child?
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    • Attachment Trauma Recovery >
      • Origins of Attachment Trauma
      • Signs of Attachment Trauma in Adults and Children
      • Therapy for Attachment Trauma
    • Mental Health Apps
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      • California CSD
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      • Serena Williams Post Partum Depression
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      • Making New Habits
      • Creating Staying Power
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      • Is My Partner Abusive?
      • The Cycle of Violence
      • Dangers of Staying
      • Healing From an Abusive Relationship
    • What is a Treatment Plan?
    • Of Caterpillars and Courage
    • LifeStyle Wellbeing- Creating a New You
  • Career Center
    • What We Offer
    • Now Hiring Therapist Associate
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