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The Path to Integrated Healing
 
The damage caused by domestic violence affects a woman’s physical, spiritual, mental and emotional wellbeing.  Therefore, the healing process should address all of these areas, both individually and holistically.
 
Physical Wellbeing
 
Your tangible human body needs health, vitality and protection from harm in order to thrive.  This is obtained through a variety of circumstances and lifestyle choices.  The most obvious is remaining free from an abusive relationship.
 
Safety, shelter, food and water are all basic essentials that need to be present in order for you to proceed to higher levels of self-awareness and self-fulfillment.  However, just having your basic needs met is not enough. 
 
In order to rise above the minimum standard for life- just getting by- you must reach for a higher level of physical wellbeing.  This is obtained through physical activity, proper diet and adequate rest.
 
Improving your physical wellbeing will bring you many rewards. You will feel better, look better, have increased confidence, a clear mind, lowered stress, increased stamina and improved mental functioning.  Of course, this is just a sample of the many benefits obtained through physical wellbeing. 
 
Visit the LifeStyle Health and Fitness section for more information on this topic and for lots of helpful tips on becoming and staying fit.
 
Spiritual Wellbeing
 
Spiritual Wellbeing is promoted through study, prayer, inner reflection and times of silence.  Get in touch with your spiritual side.  It is there where you will find inner peace, joy, beauty and strength that you never knew existed.  You may attend church, study in the privacy of your home, listen to worship music or spend time with others.
 
Time spent seeking your Creator is priceless.  You will learn how to love and how to be loved because you will know Love.  You will find the answers to your problems and relief from your pain.  You will learn who you and Whose you are, and you will find your purpose for being.
 
Don’t know how to start?  Find a quiet place where you can be alone.  Ask God to show Himself to you in a way you will understand.  And then, just be still.  Be silent.  Wait.  Listen.  He will meet you there.
 
Mental Wellbeing
 
It is simply not enough to be away from abuse in order to achieve mental wellbeing.  Take a look at yourself.  Are there addictions you need to overcome?  Bad habits you need to break?  Problems with procrastination, laziness or other life issue? 
 
What do you know about relationships?  Domestic violence?  Money?  Politics? Current affairs?  If you were to take a test on any of these subjects, do you think you would pass?
 
You must stretch your mind! Give it a workout.  Keep your mind active and alert.  Read.  Study.  Learn.
 
Emotional Wellbeing
 
Are you “in touch” with yourself and your feelings?  Can you identify, acknowledge and accept the multitude of feelings that you experience every day?  Do you feel grounded and steady emotionally or are you prone to irrational mood swings and erratic reactions?
 
The first step in achieving emotional wellbeing is to work through all the junk and get rid of all the baggage. Journaling, counseling and building a good support network are all important aspects of this process.
 
In addition, you may want to take anger management or parenting classes; attend a motivational seminar; read healing/ recovery books; practice positive self-talk and focus on understanding your self-worth.
 
Each person’s growth toward emotional wellbeing is different.  Find what works for you and stick with it.  Remember, growth is a process.  Be patient with yourself and don’t give up!  You have what it takes to face and work through those issues that have been tying you down!
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Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
California lic. no. 102308
​Serving Chico, Paradise, Oroville, Gridley 
The persons depicted on this site are models.  Photos do not represent or guarantee results.
 
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