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Is My Partner Abusive?

Does your partner…

- Ever push, hit, kick, slap, or otherwise harm you?
- Ever threaten to push, hit, kick, slap, or otherwise harm you?
- Get possessive, jealous or accuse you of being unfaithful?
- Keep track of your time, phone calls and activities?
- Check up on you?
- Tell you that you are crazy, no good, fat, ugly, etc?
- Tell you that nobody else could ever love you?
- Throw things at you?
- Break or hit objects (i.e., punch the wall, kick the door, etc.)
- Threaten to leave you?
- Threaten to take the children from you?
- Act as if he is one in charge in the relationship or believe that women should submit to men?
​- Threaten to kill himself?
- Threaten to kill you or the children?
- Control what friends you have; where you go and what you do?
- Control the finances or give you allowance?
- Ever prevented you from leaving the house or a room?
- Blame you for his mood swings, jealousy or anger?
- Deny or minimize his destructive behavior?
- Force you into having sex?  
 
Do you…
- Feel as if you’re “walking on eggshells” to please him or avoid a fight?
- Give in to his demands out of fear?
- Feel as if you are trapped in the relationship?
- Think that your leaving would cause him to “loose it”?
- Make excuses for his behavior?
- Feel as if he is controlling you?  
 
If you answered “yes” to one or more of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.  The more “yes” answers you have, the greater your risk of potential danger.  Seek the help of a qualified counselor, advocate or law enforcement officer now!

Life On Their Terms
Is My Partner Abusive?
​The Cycle of Violence
Dangers of Staying
Healing From an Abusive Relationship

​Online Support, Information and Resources
 
The 12 Step Cyber Café offers excellent online help in recovering from unhealthy relationships.
http://www.12steps.com/
 
National Domestic Violence Hotline site offers a wealth of information on domestic violence and getting help.
http://www.ndvh.org/

Sources:

The Domestic Violence Information and Referral Handbook, from the Domestic Violence Project of Santa Clara County, CA.
http://www.growing.com/nonviolent/index.htm
 
The Domestic Abuse Intervention Project of Duluth
https://www.theduluthmodel.org/  
The American Psychological Association
http://www.apa.org/releases/facts.html



California LMFT license number 102308.  Oklahoma LMFT license number 1153.  North Carolina LMFT license pending.  FCCS is a California LMFT Corporation owned and directed by Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT.  The persons depicted on this site are models.  Photos do not represent or guarantee results.  Contact for service areas.
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  • Home
    • Crisis Information
    • Can Therapy Help Me?
    • Can Therapy Help My Child?
    • Help! My Kids Have Been Taken by CPS >
      • California CSD
    • Consumer Privacy HIPAA
    • Privacy Policy
  • About
    • Meet Us
    • As Seen On
    • Trauma-Informed >
      • Attachment Trauma Recovery >
        • Origins of Attachment Trauma
        • Signs of Attachment Trauma in Adults and Children
        • Therapy for Attachment Trauma
    • Mission Vision Philosophy
    • Values
    • Types of Therapy >
      • Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT)
      • Play Therapy
      • Play Therapy for Adults
      • Parent-Child Therpay
      • Experiential Therapy
      • REBT
      • HSP
      • School Based Family Counseling >
        • For Schools and Districts- PBIS Partners
      • E-Motion >
        • Movement- Stored Trauma Therapy
      • Mindfulness
  • Services
    • Therapy or Counseling >
      • Online Therapy
      • Family Therapy
      • Child Therapy
      • Teen Therapy
      • Christian Counseling >
        • Myth of Self Esteem
        • Infidelity and Abuse in Christian Marriage
      • Reunification Therapy
      • Foster /Kinship
      • Post-Adoption
      • Family Maintenance
      • EPIC Family
    • Supervised Visitation >
      • Getting Started
      • California Supervised Visitation >
        • Supervised Visitation in Chico, California
        • Supervised Visitation in Redding, California
        • Supervised Visitation in Red Bluff, California
        • Supervised Visitation in Fairfield, California
      • Facilitated Visitation
      • Monitored Exchange
    • Family Preservation
    • Kids Behavior Coaching
    • Daycare / School- Based Services
    • Associate Clinical Supervision
    • Groups
    • Workshops
    • Online Learning Center >
      • Become a Supervised Visitation Monitor
    • PBIS Partners >
      • Why Do We Have Empty Chairs?
      • Signs A Student May Benefit
      • Why Should My School Collaborate with FCCS?
      • School-Based Services May Include
  • Insurance / Fees
  • Helpful Links
    • Recommended Reading
    • Community Services >
      • Community Services- Butte County California
    • Places to Go- Family Fun >
      • Places to Go in California >
        • Places to Go in Butte County California
        • Places to Go in Shasta County California
        • Places to Go in Fairfield, California
        • Places to Go Suisun City, California
      • Places to Go in North Carolina >
        • Places to Go in Cabarrus County North Carolina
        • Places to Go in New Hanover County North Carolina
    • Weight Management >
      • Why We Develop Bad Habits
      • Diets Don't Work
      • Mapping Out Success
      • Journaling
      • Making New Habits
      • Creating Staying Power
    • Can We Talk?
    • Life On Their Terms >
      • Is My Partner Abusive?
      • The Cycle of Violence
      • Dangers of Staying
      • Healing From an Abusive Relationship
    • What is a Treatment Plan?
    • Of Caterpillars and Courage
    • Helping Kids Feel Safe in a Scary World
    • LifeStyle Wellbeing- Creating a New You
  • Locations
    • California >
      • Chico
      • Redding
      • Fairfield
    • Oklahoma
    • North Carolina
  • Contact
    • Career Center >
      • Now Hiring Clinical Supervisor
      • We Help You Build Your Private Practice
      • Now Hiring Community- Based Therapist
      • Now Hiring Chico, CA Therapist
      • Now Hiring Online Therapist
      • Now Hiring Family Monitor
      • Now Hiring Billing Coordinator