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Is My Partner Abusive?
Does your partner…
- Ever push, hit, kick, slap, or otherwise harm you?
- Ever threaten to push, hit, kick, slap, or otherwise harm you?
- Get possessive, jealous or accuse you of being unfaithful?
- Keep track of your time, phone calls and activities?
- Check up on you?
- Tell you that you are crazy, no good, fat, ugly, etc?
- Tell you that nobody else could ever love you?
- Throw things at you?
- Break or hit objects (i.e., punch the wall, kick the door, etc.)
- Threaten to leave you?
- Threaten to take the children from you?
- Act as if he is one in charge in the relationship or believe that women should submit to men?
- Threaten to kill himself?
- Threaten to kill you or the children?
- Control what friends you have; where you go and what you do?
- Control the finances or give you allowance?
- Ever prevented you from leaving the house or a room?
- Blame you for his mood swings, jealousy or anger?
- Deny or minimize his destructive behavior?
- Force you into having sex?
Do you…
- Feel as if you’re “walking on eggshells” to please him or avoid a fight?
- Give in to his demands out of fear?
- Feel as if you are trapped in the relationship?
- Think that your leaving would cause him to “loose it”?
- Make excuses for his behavior?
- Feel as if he is controlling you?
If you answered “yes” to one or more of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. The more “yes” answers you have, the greater your risk of potential danger. Seek the help of a qualified counselor, advocate or law enforcement officer now!
Life On Their Terms
Is My Partner Abusive?
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Healing From an Abusive Relationship
Online Support, Information and Resources
The 12 Step Cyber Café offers excellent online help in recovering from unhealthy relationships.
http://www.12steps.com/
National Domestic Violence Hotline site offers a wealth of information on domestic violence and getting help.
http://www.ndvh.org/
Sources:
The Domestic Violence Information and Referral Handbook, from the Domestic Violence Project of Santa Clara County, CA.
http://www.growing.com/nonviolent/index.htm
The Domestic Abuse Intervention Project of Duluth
https://www.theduluthmodel.org/
The American Psychological Association
http://www.apa.org/releases/facts.html
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