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        • For Schools and Districts- PBIS Partners
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        • Movement- Stored Trauma Therapy
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Can therapy Help Me?

Making New Habits

Once we have uncovered the underlying needs behind the behavior, we can get to work on breaking the habit.  Old, unhealthy habits are more easily broken if they are replaced with new, healthful ones.  This is what the psychology world refers to as “replacement behaviors.”
 
Let’s say the old habit of over-eating was an attempt to address the need to feel fulfilled emotionally.  What other activities, or habits, will lead to the same goal of emotional fulfillment?  The answer will most likely be different for each person.  However, some general ideas could be playing with your kids, talking on the phone with a good friend, writing a letter to a loved one, reading the Bible or other inspirational material, listening to uplifting music, exercising, counting your blessings, or creating a personal five year plan.

Our replacement behaviors are unique to our personal preferences, schedule and resources.  Here is a list of some potential activities that may work for you...

 
Suggested Replacement Behaviors

Play a game with your children, spouse, SO or friends
Read a book (to yourself or another)
Go for a walk
Call a friend
Check your email
Close your eyes and count to 10
Breathe deeply; meditate on a positive / motivating word on the exhale
Plan your next vacation
Do 20 jumping jacks
Look at the family photo album
Make a family photo album
Plan a tasty and healthy menu
Make a healthy grocery list
Paint your toenails
Brush your teeth
Try a new hairstyle
Let your kids style your hair
Go to bed
Pray
Meditate
Cry
Laugh
Stretch
Volunteer to help another
Go somewhere remote and yell
Turn up the radio and sing along- loudly
Dance with the broom
Color
Play dress up with your kids or fur kids
Skip around the block (and entertain the neighbors!)
Bake homemade muffins using finely ground oatmeal instead of flour
Give healthy baked gifts to neighbors
Recite a poem, Scripture or favorite saying
 
Add your new healthy habits to your Journal.

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FCCS is directed by Melinda Haynes, MA, California LMFT 102308.  Oklahoma LMFT 1153. North Carolina LMFT 2143.

We provide therapy for various trauma issues including absent parent, parent in prison, violence, witnessing violence, domestic violence, tragedy, murder,, witness to murder, grief, loss,, death, friend killed, violence in neighborhood, fear, first responder, vicarious trauma, nightmares, panic.

​The National Supervised Visitation online training program is a subsidiary of FCCS and can be found at 
https://www.SupervisedVisitationTraining.com.  Professional consulting for mental and behavioral health professionals is available at www.MelindaHaynes.com.  


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    • What We Do
    • Meet Our Team >
      • Bryony Hottendorf - Human Resources Assistant
      • Bryony Hottendorf - Human Resources Manager
      • Roxanna Taylor- Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Roxanna Taylor- General Assistant Therapy Program
      • Leslie Martinez Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Kasandra Estrada
      • Erica Washington, MSW, ACSW Associate Clinical Social Worker 95523
      • Tiffany Runge, AMFT 112914
      • Emily Medina, MS, LMFT 134196
      • Tyree Griffith MS APCC 7863
      • Julianna Hopkins Therapist Trainee
      • Lizbeth Brito Therapist Trainee >
        • Lizbeth Brito aprendiz de terapeuta
      • Katie Servin Therapist Trainee >
        • Katie Servin aprendiz de terapeuta
        • Katie Servin ASL Therapist Trainee
      • Amber McGuire Therapist Trainee
      • Jamie Aleman Therapist Trainee
      • Cheyenne Appleby Therapist Trainee
      • TBD 2 Therapist Trainee
      • Linda Garrido Therapist Trainee
      • Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT. Executive Director
    • Our History
    • As Seen On
    • Trauma-Informed
    • Mission Vision Philosophy
    • Values
  • Services
    • Coaching >
      • Reunification Coaching
      • Co-Parenting | Parallel Parenting Coaching
      • Parent Skills Coaching
      • Kids Behavior Coaching
    • Therapy or Counseling >
      • Family Therapy
      • Child Therapy
      • Couples Counseling
      • Teen Therapy
      • Reunification Therapy
      • Co-Parenting Therapy
      • LGBTQAI+ Counseling
      • Christian Counseling
      • Foster /Kinship
      • Post-Adoption
      • Family Maintenance
      • EPIC Family
    • Types of Therapy >
      • Online Therapy >
        • Online Therapy- Questions and Answers
      • Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT)
      • Play Therapy
      • Play Therapy for Adults
      • Multi-Sensory Integration
      • Parent-Child Therpay
      • Experiential Therapy
      • REBT
      • EMDR
      • School Based Family Counseling >
        • For Schools and Districts- PBIS Partners
      • E-Motion >
        • Movement- Stored Trauma Therapy
      • Mindfulness
    • Supervised Visitation >
      • Online Visits
      • Getting Started
      • Facilitated Visitation
      • Monitored Exchange
    • Family Preservation
    • Groups >
      • Confident Kids
      • Productive Parenting
    • Daycare / School- Based Services
    • Associate Clinical Supervision
    • Workshops
    • Online Learning Center >
      • Become a Supervised Visitation Monitor
    • PBIS Partners >
      • Why Do We Have Empty Chairs?
      • Signs A Student May Benefit
      • Why Should My School Collaborate with FCCS?
      • School-Based Services May Include
  • Insurance / Fees
    • Insurance Accepted >
      • Anthem Blue Cross Medi-Cal
      • TriCare
      • Health Net
      • California Health and Wellness
      • Cigna
      • aetna
      • Molina
      • Molina Medi-Cal
      • Kaiser
      • Victim-Witness
      • Cash Pay
      • Important Note About Insurance
    • Superbills
    • Reduced Fee Therapy
  • Helpful Links
    • Legal Resources in California
    • Community Services
    • Can Therapy Help Me?
    • Can Therapy Help My Child?
    • Helping Kids Feel Safe in a Scary World
    • Attachment Trauma Recovery >
      • Origins of Attachment Trauma
      • Signs of Attachment Trauma in Adults and Children
      • Therapy for Attachment Trauma
    • Mental Health Apps
    • Help! My Kids Have Been Taken by CPS >
      • California CSD
    • Places to Go- Family Fun >
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        • Places to Go in Butte County California
        • Places to Go in Shasta County California
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      • Places to Go in North Carolina
      • Places to Go in Oklahoma >
        • Places to Go in Tulsa, Oklahoma
        • Places to Go in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
    • Recommended Reading
    • Celebrity Psychology
    • Weight Management >
      • Why We Develop Bad Habits
      • Diets Don't Work
      • Mapping Out Success
      • Journaling
      • Making New Habits
      • Creating Staying Power
    • Can We Talk?
    • Life On Their Terms >
      • Is My Partner Abusive?
      • The Cycle of Violence
      • Dangers of Staying
      • Healing From an Abusive Relationship
    • What is a Treatment Plan?
    • Of Caterpillars and Courage
    • LifeStyle Wellbeing- Creating a New You
  • Career Center
    • What We Offer
    • Practicum Site - Healthcare Administrator
    • Practicum Site - Therapist Trainee >
      • Practicum Site Palmdale California
    • Now Hiring Front Office Coordinator Therapy Office