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Making New Habits

Once we have uncovered the underlying needs behind the behavior, we can get to work on breaking the habit.  Old, unhealthy habits are more easily broken if they are replaced with new, healthful ones.  This is what the psychology world refers to as “replacement behaviors.”
 
Let’s say the old habit of over-eating was an attempt to address the need to feel fulfilled emotionally.  What other activities, or habits, will lead to the same goal of emotional fulfillment?  The answer will most likely be different for each person.  However, some general ideas could be playing with your kids, talking on the phone with a good friend, writing a letter to a loved one, reading the Bible or other inspirational material, listening to uplifting music, exercising, counting your blessings, or creating a personal five year plan.

Our replacement behaviors are unique to our personal preferences, schedule and resources.  Here is a list of some potential activities that may work for you...

 
Suggested Replacement Behaviors

Play a game with your children, spouse, SO or friends
Read a book (to yourself or another)
Go for a walk
Call a friend
Check your email
Close your eyes and count to 10
Breathe deeply; meditate on a positive / motivating word on the exhale
Plan your next vacation
Do 20 jumping jacks
Look at the family photo album
Make a family photo album
Plan a tasty and healthy menu
Make a healthy grocery list
Paint your toenails
Brush your teeth
Try a new hairstyle
Let your kids style your hair
Go to bed
Pray
Meditate
Cry
Laugh
Stretch
Volunteer to help another
Go somewhere remote and yell
Turn up the radio and sing along- loudly
Dance with the broom
Color
Play dress up with your kids or fur kids
Skip around the block (and entertain the neighbors!)
Bake homemade muffins using finely ground oatmeal instead of flour
Give healthy baked gifts to neighbors
Recite a poem, Scripture or favorite saying
 
Add your new healthy habits to your Journal.

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FCCS is directed by Melinda Haynes, MA, California LMFT license number 102308.  Oklahoma LMFT license number 1153. North Carolina LMFT license number 2143.

​The National Supervised Visitation online training program is a subsidiary of FCCS and can be found at 
https://www.SupervisedVisitationTraining.com.  Professional consulting for mental and behavioral health professionals is available at www.MelindaHaynes.com.  Other connected but unrelated sites are Kate & Mel, Can We Talk? and The Motley Ms. 


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    • Covid-19 >
      • Beat Lockdown Anxiety with These Mindfulness Tips
    • Privacy Policy >
      • California Consumer Privacy Act (CCPA)
    • Can Therapy Help Me?
    • Can Therapy Help My Child?
    • Help! My Kids Have Been Taken by CPS >
      • California CSD
    • Consumer Privacy HIPAA
  • About
    • Brochures
    • Folletos en espanol
    • History
    • What We Do
    • Meet Us | Our Team >
      • Jayme Schlager - Office Assistant
      • Bryony Hottendorf - Program Manager, Supervised Visitation
      • April Nicole- Billing Manager
      • Roxanna Taylor- Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Abigail Mebrahtu Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Ashlyn Crouch Supervised Visitation Monitor
      • Tiffany Runge, AMFT 112914
      • Emily Medina, AMFT 107900
      • Deb Auran, Therapist Trainee
      • Jasmine Madera, MS, APCC 8239
      • Jasmine Madera, MS, APCC 8239 Clinico profesional
      • Melinda Haynes, MA, LMFT. President and CEO
    • As Seen On
    • Trauma-Informed
    • Attachment Trauma Recovery >
      • Origins of Attachment Trauma
      • Signs of Attachment Trauma in Adults and Children
      • Therapy for Attachment Trauma
    • Mission Vision Philosophy
    • Values
  • Services
    • Therapy or Counseling >
      • Online Therapy >
        • Online Therapy- Questions and Answers
      • Family Therapy
      • Child Therapy
      • Teen Therapy
      • HSP
      • Reunification Therapy
      • Foster /Kinship
      • Post-Adoption
      • Family Maintenance
      • EPIC Family
    • Types of Therapy >
      • Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT)
      • Play Therapy
      • Play Therapy for Adults
      • Multi-Sensory Integration
      • Parent-Child Therpay
      • Experiential Therapy
      • REBT
      • EMDR
      • School Based Family Counseling >
        • For Schools and Districts- PBIS Partners
      • E-Motion >
        • Movement- Stored Trauma Therapy
      • Mindfulness
    • Supervised Visitation >
      • Online Visits
      • Getting Started
      • California Supervised Visitation >
        • Supervised Visitation in Chico, California
      • Facilitated Visitation
      • Monitored Exchange
    • Family Preservation
    • Groups >
      • Camp Fire Support Group
      • Confident Kids
      • Productive Parenting
    • Kids Behavior Coaching
    • Daycare / School- Based Services
    • Associate Clinical Supervision
    • Workshops
    • Online Learning Center >
      • Become a Supervised Visitation Monitor
    • PBIS Partners >
      • Why Do We Have Empty Chairs?
      • Signs A Student May Benefit
      • Why Should My School Collaborate with FCCS?
      • School-Based Services May Include
  • Insurance / Fees
    • Important Note About Insurance
  • Helpful Links
    • Community Services >
      • 2020 California Fire Resources
      • Community Services- Butte County California
      • Free Mental Health Free Therapy
    • Mental Health Apps
    • Recommended Reading
    • Places to Go- Family Fun >
      • Places to Go in California >
        • Places to Go in Butte County California
        • Places to Go in Shasta County California
        • Places to Go in Fairfield, California
        • Places to Go Suisun City, California
      • Places to Go in North Carolina
      • Places to Go in Oklahoma >
        • Places to Go in Tulsa, Oklahoma
        • Places to Go in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
    • Weight Management >
      • Why We Develop Bad Habits
      • Diets Don't Work
      • Mapping Out Success
      • Journaling
      • Making New Habits
      • Creating Staying Power
    • Can We Talk?
    • Life On Their Terms >
      • Is My Partner Abusive?
      • The Cycle of Violence
      • Dangers of Staying
      • Healing From an Abusive Relationship
    • What is a Treatment Plan?
    • Of Caterpillars and Courage
    • Helping Kids Feel Safe in a Scary World
    • LifeStyle Wellbeing- Creating a New You
  • Contact
    • Tour the Chico Office
  • Career Center
    • What We Offer
    • Now Hiring LMFT LPCC LCSW Supervisor- CHICO, CA
    • Now Hiring Client Services Manager | Front Desk
    • Now Hiring Family Monitor
    • Taking Applications for Therapist Associate >
      • We Help You Build Your Private Practice