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Signs of Trauma & Attachment Wounding

Trauma - attachment wounding in and of itself is not a specific diagnosable mental health disorder, although some have referred to it as complex-PTSD.

Symptoms may show up in categories of criteria as in the above-mentioned diagnoses, and/or are played out in daily life in a variety of ways, including:

in adults....
- co-dependency
​- difficulty sustaining healthy relationships
- attracting unhealthy (toxic) people
- lacking healthy interpersonal boundaries
- feeling numb, lost or dead inside
- difficulty regulating emotions or returning to 'normal' after an upset
- social isolation (voluntary or not)
- feeling panicked or triggered, sometimes for unknown reasons
- getting angry / feeling rage, sometimes for unknown reasons
- lacking a sense of internal solidarity and purpose in life
- lacking a sense of peace and joy
- substance use
- promiscuity or other impulsive behaviors
- fear of commitment, fear of abandonment, or a mix of both
- inability to enjoy the present moment or feel comfortable in your own skin
- trying
 to "get over it," mask or avoid feelings
- dislike of or hatred toward self 


in children or adolescents....
- lack of attention span
- defiance toward authority
- increased emotional or social sensitivity
- conflict with or aggression toward peers or siblings
- trouble at school
- difficulty making or keeping friends
- excessive worry / feeling overwhelmed
- fear about the future
- panic attacks
​- withdrawal and defiance

- tantrums
- trouble with sleep / nightmares
- 
feelings of inadequacy and/or trying to please
- clingy or overly attached to strangers (indiscriminate affection)
- self-harm

- substance use
- other behaviors that are not developmentally or culturally appropriate 


There has been talk in the psychology world to develop a diagnosis for long-term emotional wounding. One such suggestion is Developmental Trauma Disorder (DTD).  But, the wheels of change turn slow.  Don't wait for the APA to validate what you experience.  If you can relate to this topic, please call for a free consultation.

What is Attachment Trauma?
How Do Attachment Wounds Occur? 
What Are the Signs of Attachment Trauma?
Does Therapy Work for Attachment Trauma?
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If you are an adult who survived childhood or a parent of a child who has faced any type of attachment trauma, please call for a free consultation.

​Sources: Attachment & Trauma Network, Inc., APA,  

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        • Why Behavioral Health Providers Exit Public Contracts
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        • Diets Don't Work
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        • Journaling
        • Making New Habits
        • Creating Staying Power
      • Life On Their Terms >
        • Is My Partner Abusive?
        • The Cycle of Violence
        • Dangers of Staying
        • Healing From an Abusive Relationship
      • What is a Treatment Plan?
      • Starving for Intimacy Settling for Sex
      • Of Caterpillars and Courage
      • Feeding Your Family on a Very Tight Budget
      • LifeStyle Wellbeing- Creating a New You
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        • Health Net
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        • Cigna
        • Magellan Medi-Cal
        • Community Health Plan of Imperial County
        • Molina
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        • Important Note About Insurance
      • Straight Medi-Cal
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      • Superbills
      • Reduced Fee Therapy
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      • Child Therapy
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      • Teen Therapy
      • Co-Parenting Therapy
      • Foster /Kinship
      • Post-Adoption
      • Family Maintenance
      • EPIC Family
      • Family Preservation
      • Folletos en espanol
    • Court Ordered Therapy >
      • How Court Ordered Therapy Works
      • Court Involved Therapy
      • Terapia Involucrada con el Tribunal
      • Why Social Workers, Attorneys, and Courts Refer to Us
      • Common Questions
      • Reunification Therapy >
        • When Families Reconnect After Long Separation
      • Mental Health Diversion
      • Servicios de Tratamiento de Desvío de Salud Mental
    • Types of Therapy >
      • Online Therapy >
        • Online Therapy- Questions and Answers
      • Cognitive-Behavioral (CBT)
      • Play Therapy
      • Play Therapy for Adults
      • Parent-Child Therpay
      • Experiential Therapy
      • REBT
      • Mindfulness
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